Movie; 'We need to talk about Kevin"

the movie "we need to talk about kevin" is a film i saw last week at the bryn mawr film institute. Directed by Lynne Ramsay. Starring Tilda Swinton, John C. Reilly.
This film was so well done and has been haunting me ever since i left the very somber crowd in the end. I want to have a support group/discussion gathering with anyone who has lived... er.. watched this movie. After the movie, I sat in my car and stared out the window, feeling drained, and taken with this tail.
Tilda plays a mom who is stuck in a flash back world between her sad horrific new life, alone in a crap house, haunted by her true life nightmares;and with her past life. Her memories of her husband, little adorable daughter and the draining, depressing task of raising kevin.
We watch her raise her baby boy 'kevin' and it is notable how early on there were signs of mental illness. He looks like he will surely be a psychopath and they all need help dealing with it. Personally, i felt her pain... some of the behaviors kevin demonstrated were similar to my child when he was younger. BUT, we got a lot of help (early intervention) and another big difference was my husband was supportive of me and believed me when i talked about my child. We were on it really early. Every child is different bit some of the freaky signs were creepy.
I think the whole audience cringed many times during the movie, but there was a big ugh when his jolly, oblivious dad buys young Kevin a (all be it cool) plastic suction cup archery set. Seriously WTF?! Rule # 1; do not give a mentally ill emotionally disturbed, dissociative young child a weapon/toy. The rule is no violence, no guns,no nothing, ever for this kind of kid. In the movie you wanted to shoot the dad for being so oblivious (a word worth repeating).
Early on in life; my child cried a lot, was easily frustrated, impulsive, angry, sullen, destructive, picky, potentially manipulative and explosive and I was at my whits end, like this Mom. BUT, we got got involved with the intermediate unit and committed to services, involved a Top Notch expensive child psychiatrist and were/are committed to our whole family's well being. Never give up and never put him or others in danger. Having a child with issues is so challenging but coasting along life ignoring issue is dangerous.
This mom in movie loves her son, its safe to say that all mom's love their children... she is committed to her family in every way but in the way that could have helped them all. Get your kid psychiatric help if they surely need it. He needed early intervention. The parents needed an undivided front, outside support and a good childhood psychiatrist for their child. He needed to be evaluated and the mothers concerns addressed appropriately. He should have been in care either outpatient or i think inpatient. Its hard to come to grips with these kinds of things, i know... but it could have made all the difference. (then there would be no movie)
It is so hard to see the forest threw the trees in these cases of unconditional love. It is really easy to over look tell tail signs and be in denial. Denial is not only stagnating, its dangerous.
This movie was amazing, graphic and horribly, shockingly sad... I loved it and will see it again. I am also feeling pretty happy that life is good at my house, at this moment. The acting was amazing. I totally believed the characters. 4 star film for me, maybe not for everyone